Lets Talk About Sex..

Does that title make you feel a little unconformable? Do not worry, about half the class this week probably felt uncomfortable too with the topic about marital intimacy. Marital intimacy was this weeks topic of discussion in class. On Monday and Wednesday we talked about the differences that men and women have when it comes to sexuality. We also talked about marital intimacy regarding marriage. On Friday we discussed about teaching our children about marital intimacy. This is what I want to base this post about. I believe that parents should teach their children about marital intimacy. If we do not teach them, they will learn from the world and their friends. The world glorifies intimacy as a leisurely activity and that it is not a sacred thing. In our discussion we talked about those who have been sexual used. My teacher talked about Cloe Madanes. She is a well known teacher in family therapy. She says that those who abuse or have been abused, or sexualized in the improper context "spirits were hurt." This does not mean that their spirit is diminished or gone down or is gone, it is just hurt. If we help people understand about marital intimacy we can help them not want to explore. In the next part of the discussion we talked in our groups about what we would want our children to know and at what age. My teacher gave a great quote, "We can not be confident if other people teach our children about sexuality." He gave us advice as if we are going to be future PTA presidents, and that is to look into what the "sex education" class is teaching. Some of the things that my group and I came up with were to teach 5th and 6th graders about the changes that are going to happen to them in puberty, with that though we would want the girls and the boys to be split up. A second thing would be to teach about all aspects of sex (physical and emotional) in middle school. Now days they all they teach about is the risks and how to get contraceptives. We also discussed about teaching younger children about how we do not touch people in certain places and that we do not allow other people to do that. My teacher gave us a reference to use when teaching your children about sexual intimacy. Its the "A Parents Guide" on the LDS.org website. It gives great guidelines on how to teach your children at certain ages. I know that I will be teaching my children about sexual intimacy and being very involved in their school so I know what it is going on.